OT: I may have a bipolar stalker (long). Suggestions? (Cliff?)...
10-05-2000, 07:21 PM
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Thanks Ivan...
I appreciate your insight, and I am very sorry that your brother suffers from this condition. Truth be known that I probably do have a softer heart than most here suspect (please don't tell anyone), and I genuinely do not want to hurt this woman's feelings. Unfortunately, I suspect that I cannot be her friend, and I sense that you understand why. Again, thanks for the input, and best wishes for your bro.
10-05-2000, 07:45 PM
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Brad, see inside...
Thank you. My brother has been almost two years now without a crisis. He has a very good job, a new wife and a new baby on the way to accompany his 3-year-old son through life. As long as he stays on his meds, life is very good.
I get real feelings of joy thinking about what I just wrote.
Good luck again.
I get real feelings of joy thinking about what I just wrote.
Good luck again.
10-06-2000, 12:13 PM
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DSM-III called it Manic Depressive Disorder. DSM-IV called it Bipolar Disorder...
The first was deemed negative and the newer name is neutral, according to some members of the psychiatric community.
If anyone is interested, e-mail me, I have some good recommendations on books that enlighten about this disorder and are not academic in tone.
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If anyone is interested, e-mail me, I have some good recommendations on books that enlighten about this disorder and are not academic in tone.
I
10-06-2000, 02:28 PM
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Make it clear that at this time in your life, you are not psychologically
ready for a serious relationship. The demands of your job, other emotional demands, etc. Without telling her to get lost, you tell her that YOU can't emotionally handle a relationship at this time.
10-07-2000, 07:17 PM
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Um sorry, I'll quit coming by...
just kidding! 
Coming from a woman's point of view...and someone who has had to ward off a few men who just don't get clear signals...you gotta be blunt. But polite. I've found that any sliver of hope that you leave open, sad and desperate people see that as an open door. Keep in mind, and I had to do this too...that while you are worried about hurting their feelings, that they are not being considerate of yours. Basically, their world revolves around them and their wants, and they don't consider that you might not like unannounced guests. If you put it into that perspective, it's a little easier to send out a strong and direct message that this type of behavior isn't welcome.
Another thing to do if you are cornered (on your way in or out and she just "happens" to be stopping by), say you are on the way to meeting your girlfriend.
Coming from a woman's point of view...and someone who has had to ward off a few men who just don't get clear signals...you gotta be blunt. But polite. I've found that any sliver of hope that you leave open, sad and desperate people see that as an open door. Keep in mind, and I had to do this too...that while you are worried about hurting their feelings, that they are not being considerate of yours. Basically, their world revolves around them and their wants, and they don't consider that you might not like unannounced guests. If you put it into that perspective, it's a little easier to send out a strong and direct message that this type of behavior isn't welcome.
Another thing to do if you are cornered (on your way in or out and she just "happens" to be stopping by), say you are on the way to meeting your girlfriend.